If he doesn't have a job, it's understandable that he won't want to lead with that, but if he won't even elaborate when pressed, he either (1) does something shady as hell for a living or (2) is just fine with lying a lot.14. It's one thing if he's being a gentleman and doesn't want you to make a long drive out to see him.
It's another if he freaks out at the prospect of you being within a 20-mile radius of his home.15. Either he has low self-esteem, doesn't care about pictures, or that picture is not at all indicative of him.
This in turn can erode the foundation of trust which is essential to every marriage.
When that happens, it's just a short step to betrayal and infidelity.
They can also provide you with a list of licensed Christian marriage and family therapists practicing in your area. Resources Making Marriage Work in a Social Media World (broadcast)Friendship or Flirtation?
Danger Signs for Couples (broadcast)Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life (book)In Marriage Unfriend Yourself (book)Referrals Covenant Eyes - Provider of Internet accountability and filtering services.
We should add that there a sense in which social media can complicate this whole scenario in some subtle and elusive ways.
But if he's describing himself as an "entrepreneur" and refuses to get more detailed or refers to his job situation as "complicated" instead of being up front, that should be a red flag. Either he's seeing someone else and doesn't want to be spotted out with another woman in his hometown, he doesn't see a future with you and doesn't want you knowing where he lives just so he can keep his distance, or he's basically a hoarder and he doesn't want you to see the state his place is in.If you need help sifting through this information and applying these principles to your personal situation, don't hesitate to call and speak with a member of our Counseling Department. The Family Help Center staff member who answers the phone will arrange for a licensed counselor to call you back.Our counselors are available Monday through Friday between a.m. One of them will be in touch just as soon as they're able.You shouldn't be one to judge a book by its cover, obviously, but if he's actively trying to deceive people, that says a lot about his personality. And to be totally fair, physical chemistry is still important.16. If he talks to you constantly but doesn't meet up, or have social media profiles, or ever want to video chat ... Start doing reverse image searches (and don't forget to flip the image in case he's doing the same thing to throw you off the scent).