Like one who lives in deceit, I stone myself and call for help Your wound grows and grows It slits my throat from vein to vein. There are hundreds of stories and resources for addicts. We go to great lengths to avoid the subject altogether.I put sand in you wound, I put in your wound a giant, and around myself I light the fire. It often seems it’s the families of addicts who are forgotten and who largely suffer in silence. So much in fact that I belittled myself by staying with one for seven years. Four years later, when I found out about my husband’s relapse, I thought about this friend and the courage it took him to say this and acknowledge . I can do better.” Instead, I stayed, w—a—y too long. Both the addict and the co-dependent will do anything to hide their sense of inadequacy.Bill Manville's most recent work, "Cool, Hip & Sober," is available at all online bookstores.Kate and Jeremy met in 2008, when she was 18 and he was 23, at an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting.While I have seen some wonderful transformations in Alcoholics Anonymous, the statistics are not promising and I would not place any bets for my future on another addict.There are millions of kind, whole and addiction-free men in the world. For readers like Eddie, let me recommend a pertinent video made by some recovering alcoholics, mostly about Eddie's age, discussing the sex part of their inventory-takingÒAA's Sex Inventory. DAVE: Eddie and co-founder Bill Wilson would probably have gotten along quite well.Ultimately, while Bill W and his wife Lois were sort of the Royalty of AA and Alanon-Bill took a long-term mistress on the side, a woman 22 years younger than he was!
It also sabotages recovery -- a diversion to avoid the needed group emotional bonding experience.After four and half pages of undeniable facts, I realized that there was no longer any question of whether or not I could stay with him. When you live with an addict, you are never quite certain about reality. By writing down the facts as they happened, he could not come back to me later with his own version of the truth.In my case, there were months of lying about his sobriety when I just wasn’t sure whether he was drinking or not.It is very easy to prioritize a new relationship over one's recovery.Since most alcoholics are not good listeners, and we all need companionship, the best thing to do when dating is, don't date another alcoholic. Look at it as practice -- See if you can develop a relationship before it becomes about sex.