It can take several years for parents and teens to adjust to their new roles, though.In the meantime, concentrate on communicating with your parents as best you can.And more complicated issues — like the types of friends you have or your attitudes about sex and partying — can cause even bigger arguments, because your parents will always be intent on protecting you and keeping you safe, no matter how old you are.The good news about fighting with your parents is that in many families the arguing will lessen as parents get more comfortable with the idea that their teen has a right to certain opinions and an identity that may be different from theirs. But as you change and grow into this new person who makes his or her own decisions, your parents may have a difficult time adjusting. It's totally normal for teens to create their own opinions, thoughts, and values about life; it's what prepares them for adulthood.The communication that flowed easily, with words, glances and touch, becomes a minefield.Judith says that her once affectionate daughter is now, at 14, surly and guarded, with "porcupine-like spines that bristle whenever I get near her".
But talking and expressing your opinions can help you gain more respect from your parents, and you may be able to reach compromises that make everyone happy.
I find it very amusing for all these people that say you just tell them not to do drugs or have sex, that's very funny. I think rules for kids are an ever changing thing and they must be included in the discussions about them, their voices must be heard along with the understanding that the parent has the final say.
I also find it amusing that they think the grades in elementary school really mean their kid will do well in the higher levels.
Pat says that his 15-year-old son Greg "gives off hate rays the minute I step into the room. Sometimes I get furious, but mostly he manages to make me as unhappy as he seems to be." Recent discoveries that the human brain undergoes specific and dramatic development during adolescence (with the frontal lobes - which allow us to organize sequences of actions, think ahead and control impulses - bulking up in early adolescence before gradually shrinking back) offer new physiological "explanations" of teen behavior, particularly of their impulsiveness.
At the bulking stage, there may be too many synapses for the brain to work efficiently; the mental capacity for decision-making, judgement and control is not mature until the age of twenty-four.