No interest in dating after divorce

Honest version: I’m not into you, because if I was, it doesn’t matter where I am. But, in the long run, hearing the real story saves so much time, so much aggravation, and it forces us to move on much quicker.

The truth might be brutal to hear, and hurtful and upsetting, and it might even make us cry.

And isn’t it easier to tell someone you have a boyfriend than to just say, “I’m not interested in you? Honest version: I don’t want YOU to be my girlfriend.

But as a new wingwoman who was single and ready to mingle, I gave them a second wind.

Honest version: I really like you a lot and I want to take you out for a really nice date so you know that. You’re going to make some guy really, really happy.

Honest version: I wish we could go back to the first 6 months of our relationship when we were on our best behavior, because we both know this is going downhill fast.

The best part about being divorced after a short marriage is being single again at 35. When my marriage ended after just two years, the idea of navigating the dating world all over again seemed daunting, unappealing, and pointless.

Plus, the last time I'd been seriously single, it was 2006; texting was barely a given, much less Tinder.

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