I’ve always thought that part of the fun of getting to know someone is finding out about their upbringing, learning about their family, being introduced to new people and traditions. When it comes to interfaith dating, a lot depends on how big a part being Jewish plays in someone’s day-to-day life. There are many positive elements to the cultural stereotype of a Jewish family – warmth, lots and lots of love, unconditional support, and deep, intense family values (The food can be pretty terrific, too).It can seem like an over-the-top free for all sometimes, and even when you grow up in the middle of a big, close Jewish family, like I did, it can take a lifetime to get used to.After World War II, Jews everywhere were reeling from the Nazi slaughter of 6 million European Jews.Many of those who survived moved to the United States, which now is home to the second largest Jewish population in the world.Small towners may feel the unique bond that exists in a tight-knit, minority community. Varying perceptions by non-Jews and a wide range of self-definition by Jews.These factors raise issues in every facet of Jewish life, including dating.
When I’ve dated Jewish men, sometimes there’s an immediate feeling of familiarity, even if we’ve just met.Is this something that’s going to be done separately from the person he or she is dating? Ours was a fervent love match, made more fervent by the fact that we had to wait in secret for two years until Ben earned enough at his profession to support a family.In the US, more Jews identify themselves through Jewish culture and tradition than formal religious affiliation.Those who consider themselves affiliated generally fall into three categories – Reform, Conservative and Orthodox, which, most basically, refer to levels of observance.