Are we dating exclusively or is our relationship just casual?
What exactly is the level of our commitment to each other?
They want to 'hang' and make out and maybe occasionally have sex, but they don't want the title or the blame when they f*ck it up. It's the most frustrating blurred line ever.""I'm not into 'hanging out,' " says Jason, 28, "but I feel like it's become a casual type of date. Let's not take this too seriously, or too fast, but let's get together and do something fun and not too personal, like go bowling.' That to me is hanging out.""I dread this kind of text or message from a girl I'm interested in," says Owen, 26.
"It's like saying, 'Let's hang out until a better guy comes along that I want to date.
Nearly every Hollywood romantic comedy hinges on a dramatic moment when a couple finally must “define the relationship.” Imagine the scene where one lover boards an airplane intending to leave the other forever — only to remain standing on the tarmac as the plane takes off. “We were meant to be together.” In real life, however, endings usually are not quite so predictable—and that’s where “the talk” comes in.
The define-the-relationship discussion involves questions such as, “Are we ‘just friends’ or more than that?
Just own it, you don't want to seriously date or meet someone.” Having this kind of discussion can seem risky because we don’t want to appear pushy and scare off the other person.If you have begun to feel strongly about the individual you are dating, asking if he or she shares your feelings can be a frightening moment of truth.Don't care if it's coffee or a stroll in the park or dinner at The Darby. You know, I ask my little cousin if he wants to hang out with me — I don't ask a girl that I'm interested in and want to impress if she wants to 'hang out' at a basketball game."Garrett, 24, shares the same frustration, though he adds that meeting someone who wants to "hang out" gives him a better idea of what he's walking into.If we make plans to get together, it's a date to me — no matter how big or small."Though only 22 percent of the singles surveyed feel like "if I'm asked, then it's date," it seems that guys feel like spending time one-on-one with you is a date. "God," Anthony 33, says right off the bat, "I f*cking hate that term. "I've met girls that want to 'hang out,' and typically, they're the type that are the non-committables.