But other than that, my closest friends were a couple of girls. A roommate I’ll call “Jason.” He was my Little Sister in TBS and my gay best friend. Another six months later, and I encountered another curious parental question: Are you dating Jason? As I walked out the door a couple days later to head back to school, my mother stopped me.
For a few years between high school and college, I had a guy as a best friend and then a boyfriend.
Gay men are straight women’s love consultants, dating strategists, and healers of heartbreak; and straight women are giving it right back. This fascinating bond between straight women and gay men is for a good reason: perceived trustworthiness – a critical perception when it comes to love advice (Russell, Del Priore, Butterfield, & Hill, 2013).
For example, straight women reported more inclination to withhold information that could help highly attractive women meet someone, and men report more willingness to lie to attractive women so that they’ll eventually sleep with them.
Bumble is well-positioned to help them meet that goal: The company was created by Tinder co-founder Whitney Wolfe as a response to the widespread harassment that women reported when using dating apps.
Her service combats that problem by preventing men from communicating with female matches, unless the woman has contacted them first.
When it comes to love advice, at some level, not all people can be trusted. They are uniquely positioned to help each other navigate an often complicated dating game. I have met quite a few homosexual men over the years who feel great contempt, disgust even, for women.
Brand new evidence refines this idea even further (Russell, Babcock, Lewis, Ta, & Ickes, 2016). Just because you are a man who is sexually attracted to men doesn't mean you have anything in common with females.