Come to think of it, I did the same thing with the boyfriend before that. However, a healthy relationship involves two fully developed, secure people who aren’t in a rush to get anywhere, because no one’s looking to run off with someone else anytime soon.
Boundaries are hard to implement without seeming disinterested or taking a step back.
And to be honest, everyone responds well to someone who has boundaries and knows what is right for them.
With the right tools and community strategies, it is possible to help your loved one towards recovery.
Only a doctor or mental health professional can officially provide an official diagnosis of a personality disorder, but there are several key symptoms you can observe that might indicate a person has BPD.
“If you’re the kind of person who’s comfortable speaking your mind, you may want to tell your partner that your reason for slowing the pace is due to the fact that you like them,” says.
“Because you have positive feelings about ‘who they are’ at this point in knowing them, you want to ensure that your relationship has the greatest likelihood of moving forward in a healthy manner.” Since all of my relationships in the past have been riddled with co-dependence, I now make an effort to move cautiously and deliberately in my dating life — and I make that clear from the very beginning.