As Tom spoke, he was eager to share: “Kendra’s just so different from Shana, and I can really be myself with her. I figure my daughter will like her because she’s a lot of fun to be around.” During our second discussion, I asked Tom to make a list of any disadvantages of introducing Kendra to Abby too soon.When Tom and I spoke a week later, he was feeling distraught and disappointed that a meeting between Kendra and Abby was a disaster.In closing, post-divorce dating can be enjoyable if you approach it attentively.
Just because you are smitten with your new love, it doesn’t mean that your kids will share your positive feelings.
Ask yourself: Is my new partner a good fit for my family?
After all, you might have great chemistry and compatibility with someone, but they might not be well suited to join your family.
If you approach dating thoughtfully after your divorce and consider your children’s needs, it will pay off in the long run.
Your kids may feel a mixed bag of emotions about you dating and even harbor fantasies that you will reconcile with your ex-spouse.