Because women are essentially telling them they can't. Women may pretend to be less sexual than they are for fear of not being taken seriously.
They might also engage in hard-to-get games to "keep men interested." Men often pretend they want a relationship in order to get sex (because they're taught they can't they want sex), spinning dreams of a rosy-hued future which will vanish once they realize the woman they've been making promises to expects them to be kept.
Both genders invite bad behavior from each other in these scenarios and emerge with yet more "proof" that "women are crazy" and "men are assholes." 4. A great guy didn't suddenly morph into a douchebag because you talked about sex in your online profile; he was attract a douchebag.
Example: back when I had a girl-next-door profile, I met a guy who parroted all the right lingo.
But you don't want to stand out to everyone; you just want to stand out to the type of person who shares your values -- sexual and otherwise.
If you want to attract someone who values sex as much as you, you need to do the very thing you've been taught to do: be transparent.
Women are socialized to believe that men are jerks and men resent women scrutinizing them for covert jerkiness.
Once you decide that men are closet douchebags, this mindset will inform your interactions with them.
How would you feel if the men you were dating approached you with cynicism and disdain and made you jump through hoops before they'd have sex with you?
Our digital age maintains some of the old cultural features, of course, but we tend to withdraw further and further from activities that are based in the community.
Transylvanian Hungarian village cultures are rich and varied …